Dad U.

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That may be me in the picture, learning with my little brother the fine art of hammering stuff, though it’s the kind of scene that plays itself out every day all across the world: a dad patiently coaching his boys when clearly it would be easier to do the thing himself. But such dads aren’t as interested in the things they’re building as much as the future dads they’re building.

In the aftermath of the day of celebrating dads, a flurry of posts have emerged that demonstrate how much dads have made a big impact on our own dadness in the MDB community. Here are some highlights about how we feel not only about our dads, but our own responsibilities of being dads.


Me: I can’t believe I have a patch of gray hair.

Anna: You have gray hair, Daddy? That means you’re old. (starts getting upset) I don’t want you to get old!

Me: I’m not that old, sweetie. I’m just a little bit old.

Wife: (pointing at my head in the mirror) See? It’s a patch.

Anna: You’re going to die soon.

Me and wife: ….?

Anna: (Starts singing) You’re going to die soon, you’re going to die soon…

I don’t think there’s any better way to celebrate father’s day than to have your eldest daughter sing a song about how ‘you’re going to die soon’ upon hearing about your first patch of gray hair.” Josh Weed, The Weed (read Father’s Day Song)


“My sweet wife must be just a wee bit disturbed that I have resurrected what she views as a seemingly superficial appreciation for the Three Stooges after at least a decade of dormancy. She overlooked my mania for the three kings of slapstick comedy when we started our lives together back in ’84. As I have grown in the Gospel and in life, she probably assumed that I had matured out of that immature phase, and graduated to more settled, approved entertainment options such as soap operas and grisly crime dramas. However, I never really abandoned the Three Stooges; I just emotionally buried them for awhile, waiting for the right moment. Father’s Day 2011 is that right moment.” Richard Tait, Mormon Third Eye (read I See… A Mormon Third Eye Father’s Day Special! Serious Silliness: How the Three Stooges Blesses the Lives of Men of the Church


“Alas, my kids are stuck with me for their father. I don’t do sports and I’m no superhero. But I do try to be a good father. On occasion I actually succeed.” Scott Hinrichs, Reach Upward (read A Dad, Not a Superhero)


“Fathers, remember back in high school when we were on a sports team and we had to do two, and some times even three-a-day practices? They were hard. But in the end, after the buzzer sounded, the whistle blew and the game was over, all that roughness paid off.

“Having Macey home is a three-a-day (actually its more like an all-day) practice. But she is here. She is healthy. She the prettiest thing, next to her mom, that I have ever seen. She is 8 pounds and 10 ounces of pure joy. She is the light of our home. Its a good rough.” Scott Bagley, Macey n’ Me (read Best Father’s Day Gift Ever)


“Is that really so much to ask? One day a year when we don’t look at deadbeats or abusers and instead look at the good guys and say, ‘You rock!’ Not, ‘You need to do better,’ or make nudge-nudge-wink-wink jokes about how goofily sweet and clueless dads are. I think dads deserve better than that.” Braden Bell (read Happy Father’s Day, With No Qualifications or Guilt Trips)


“My dad always kept his ties tied. ‘Tie ‘em once and you’re done,’ was his motto. At the end of the day he’d loosen his tie, slip it over his head and hang it on his tie rack. Now I see a couple of my boys doing the same thing.” Kevin Beckstrom, Beckstrom Buzz (read Family Ties, or Thanks, Dad!)


Abel Keogh posted a link to maybe the best father-son scene in all of moviedom. Be sure to visit Father’s and Sons.


“Harry Potter’s parents are dead and his aunt and uncle are horrible. Luke Skywalker’s dad became a Sith Lord. Katniss’ mom was a vegetable for a while.

“The litany of media that portrays families as dysfunctional and broken and populated by selfish jerks is long and irritating, because I don’t think it’s fair. I think there are far more families that are trying hard to stay together and be a loving family than there are these other types.” Jared Garrett (read A Celebration of Fathers)


“In the hundreds of Sunday School lessons and Seminary classes that he will attend but rarely pay attention to, may there be something that sticks. May there be enough seeds planted that faith eventually fills his being.

“Give him strength to never accept the offered beer or cigarette, or myriad other substances that he is taught to avoid. May the Ginger Ale or the 2-liter Mountain Dew be the extent of his binge drinking.

“During his teen years when he likes me about as much as anyone likes BO, help me, Lord, to be patient and compassionate that I not give up. He needs his father.” Bitner, Modern Mormon Men (read A Mormon Father’s Prayer For His Son)


And last, but not least: In The Art of Manliness, Brett McKay shares with us his take on the 12 Best Movies About Fatherhood.


Broadway Squeeze Play

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Sure, we’re noted for being “nice,” but it doesn’t mean we Mormons can’t at least share how we feel about how our faith is being portrayed on Broadway, where The Book of Mormon (the musical, not the book) has just won 9 Tony awards, including Best Musical.

“Dealing with parody and satire is always a tricky thing for churches,” wrote Michael Otterson, head of public affairs for the Church in the Washington Post. “We can easily appear thin-skinned or defensive, and churches sometimes are.”

But he goes on to share exactly how he feels about the show.

“Specifically, I’m not willing to spend $200 for a ticket to be sold the idea that religion moves along oblivious to real-world problems in a kind of blissful naiveté.” Read Michael’s full article, Why I Won’t Be Seeing the Book of Mormon Musical.

Braden Bell, who has three degrees and a job in theatre, notably musical theater, blogged about what a musical theater guy is supposed to make of this show that everyone loves and has officially taken Broadway by storm.

“I don’t think it’s productive to get upset or boycott or things like that, either. The Church’s official statement is a one sentence thing that basicaly amounts to: ‘Meh.’ Personally, I think we all just need to grow a thicker skin and stop being offended at everything. Freedom of Speech is an incomparable gift and the cost is that we might hear things that offend us.

“I just wish this were practiced more equitably. Why is it ok to mock Mormon beliefs and things we hold sacred, but jokes about other more favored minorities are immediately off-limits?”

Read Braden’s full post, A Musical Theatre Mormon’s Thoughts on The Book of Mormon Musical.

Davison Cheney is a “poor Idaho boy living in Utah,” who has not seen The Book of Mormon musical. But the former BYU musical theater major has followed the rise of the show with interest.

“What bugs me is not that this stereotype is poorly researched or shallow or incomplete. On the contrary. Nor is the problem that others will look at the stereotype and go no further in their pursuit to understand Mormons and Mormon beliefs. I know that, having been trivialized, there will be many who won’t be able to get past the caricature of rose-colored-glasses-wearing, naive and unsophisticated Latter-day Saint trying to save the world. That kind-a describes me.

“Mormons are not the first group of people to be lampooned. But Mormons are the ones who won’t fight viciously in retaliation. There will be no picket lines. And other than folks like me commenting, the response will be decent and faith affirming (http://newsroom.lds.org/). Mormons will weather that storm with a smile — not unlike the stereotype.”

Read Davison’s post, About Mormons and Broadway.

What do you think? Share your thoughts in the comments below.

A Wife Named Gomer

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An ongoing instant message exchange between Scott Taylor and his co-worker Steven frequently results in exchanges that bring a smile.

For example, recently the duo discussed what Steven learned from his Old Testament study. Namely how, no matter what moniker your parents laid on you (even if your parents were Hollywood stars who named you after a celestial object and, for your middle name, a piece of fruit), you could have done worse. (Exhibit A: Hosea’s wife, Gomer.)

You don’t want to miss More Old Testament According To Steven.

High School Vinyl

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When today’s high schoolers reach middle age, it seems unlikely that they’ll stumble across a box of old mp3s when cleaning out their garage. There’s something to be said for the days of tangible media.

Middle-aged Mormon Man recently came across a box of record albums that is sure to bring a flood of memories, fond and otherwise, for those of us anywhere near middle-age. (How long has it been since you thought about Jonathan Livingston Seagull?)

The post is a charming walk down memory lane, although MMM does get at least one fact wrong: when Olivia was singing “I Honestly Love You,” she wasn’t secretly singing it to him; she was singing it to me.

Visit A Box of Memories: High School Vinyl and ‘fess up how many of these albums you had in your collection.

Surviving Pregnancy: A Guide for Expectant Dads

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Okay, so maybe as guys we don’t actually carry the babies ourselves. But the fact of the matter is, the pregnancy experience is fraught with peril for the soon-to-be father who dares traverse that 9-month minefield unawares.

Fortunately, newly expectant father Scott Bagley shares with others about to embark this journey the lessons he’s learned thus far from his experience as he’s about to have his first child.

It includes such gems as Rule #17:

NEVER buy your wife Reebok Shape-ups as an after pregnancy gift.

And Rule #21:

DON’T be offended if she all of a sudden can beat your best friend in a burping contest.

Scott is a BYU-Idaho junior who works two part-time jobs and goes to school full time. He’s been married 11 months and is chronicling the experience of preparing to be a new dad in his blog, Macey and Me.

Welcome Scott (and Macey) by reading 25 Things NOT to do When Your Wife is Pregnant.

Time to Take It All Off?

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Mark Wilcox decided the time had come to cut his losses. After mulling the matter of his own male pattern baldness for some time, Mark decided to beat nature to the punch by shaving off the remainder of his hair.

It was a brash move not without its consequences. Mark learned a number of random lessons, including the fact that a bald head can make a wife cry and a kid laugh.

All things considered, would he do it again? Find out in Should I Shave My Head or Not? Randomness I Have Learned from Going Naked Up Top.