It was the toughest week of my life, but perhaps also the best. Here are a few things dad taught me during the final days of his life, even when he could no longer speak: Lessons from Dad’s Last Week
A new blog, Bedhead Moms, encourages women to accept themselves for everything they are, a terrific and much-needed message that we whole-heartedly agree with. But what does it have to do with a blog about Mormon dads? Well, as it turns out, this week they’ve turned their attention to us. (This sort of thing happens a lot around this time every year. No idea why, but we think it is pretty great.)
In their “Bedhead Dad” series, Bedhead Moms introduces us via a collection of photo essays to a wide range of dads who share two things in common: their faith and their complete devotion to their families.
- There’s The Cool Dad, who just welcomed a baby into his home after years of struggle, including an adoption that fell through.
- There’s the Part Time SAHD (Stay at Home Dad), a photographer who also helps feed his family by turning nearly every square inch of the lot of his Southern California home into something his family can consume in Providing More Than Money.
- There’s the distribution manager for a major motion picture studio who loves those small, unforgettable occasions with his children in Enjoying the Moment.
Bedhead Moms has capped their Bedhead Dads week with a beautifully produced video tribute to fathers that is both funny and warm, Dear Dad.
Bedhead Moms was created by Wendy Santiano, who is married to Rod Santiano, whose terrific cinematography blog we’ve featured many times on MDB. We welcome Bedhead Moms to the blogging community and wish them every success.
We’ve featured amusing and clever blog posts by Josh Weed a few times before on MDB.
But this weekend, his blog took a more serious turn and has created something of a stir (2,046 comments and counting as of this writing).
Josh and his wife, Lolly, are celebrating their 10th anniversary (normally associated with tin and aluminum gifts) with a weekend away, including taking in the show, The Blue Man Group (which they really enjoyed, by the way) and publishing for the first time a dual Josh-and-Lolly post about something they’d never shared with their blog readers before.
Typically, such a declaration would be followed by a denouncement and hurt feelings on one side or the other, if not both. Here, there is only a call for love.
Regardless of where you stand on this frequently polarizing issue, this is a timely, sensitively written post that would be well worth your time reading.
Consider joining Josh and Lolly’s Club Unicorn.
When Topher Clark was a scout, he had a leader named Roger Henry. Here’s how he describes the love-hate relationship between the scouts and Bro. Henry.
“We loved him because he was a former surf dude and drove a classic red MG, and we hated him because he made us do scouting things we disliked and he called us on all of our bull. He never let us get away with anything. Whenever we were too lazy to, say, put up a tent or roll-up a sleeping bag he would tell us that the tooth fairy wasn’t going to do it for us, and would wait until we did it. I think if I met Roger today he and I would be great friends, but at age thirteen boys are naturally distrustful of any adult who is more awesome than they are. I remember feeling that it was our job to be awesome, and that the adult’s responsibility was to be gullible, fat, allowing, and to roll up our sleeping bags.”
It was because of the Bro. Henrys of this world that Topher went on to become an Eagle Scout and somehow survive adolescence. But that doesn’t mean the scouts went soft on Bro. Henry. Topher goes on to describe one particularly memorable encounter with Bro. Henry involving mud, a Smurf, and a bolo tie.
It’s just one many engaging posts on a relatively new blog called Part Time Authors, described as “a conversation between four friends about life, fatherhood, what makes us laugh and what makes us tick.”
But back to Bro. Henry, who ended up getting the last laugh, as I suppose all former scoutmasters do. Writes Topher, “And now I have spent almost ten years in the young men’s program myself, and Karma sucks!”
Read the full account of Topher’s encounter with Bro. Henry in Scouting for Trouble.
For those of us way on the other end of the tied knot, it can be easy to forget the delicate nuances involved in timing and initiating that first hand-hold in a new relationship. These are high stakes here. Blow the timing or technique here could doom an otherwise promising relationship.
The ranks of Mormon dadhood might experience some growth, thanks to a recent posting, “Holding Hands,” in The RMTC (The Returned Missionary Training Center). The post not only helps the recently returned missionary recognize the timing cues, it offers a technique, which derives its name from that masterpiece Kung Fu Panda, for how to float that hand-holding trial balloon.
“The Wushi Finger, (aka the pinky brush) is used to determine whether someone is interested in holding your hand. It requires you to ever so slightly brush your hand against your dates hand. It needs to be fluid — no ferreting around in pursuit of your date’s hand. The point of the Wushi Finger is to allow your date a chance to politely decline by moving her hand away in a subtle manner.”
Read the full article here.
Okay, so maybe as guys we don’t actually carry the babies ourselves. But the fact of the matter is, the pregnancy experience is fraught with peril for the soon-to-be father who dares traverse that 9-month minefield unawares.
Fortunately, newly expectant father Scott Bagley shares with others about to embark this journey the lessons he’s learned thus far from his experience as he’s about to have his first child.
It includes such gems as Rule #17:
NEVER buy your wife Reebok Shape-ups as an after pregnancy gift.
And Rule #21:
DON’T be offended if she all of a sudden can beat your best friend in a burping contest.
Scott is a BYU-Idaho junior who works two part-time jobs and goes to school full time. He’s been married 11 months and is chronicling the experience of preparing to be a new dad in his blog, Macey and Me.
Welcome Scott (and Macey) by reading 25 Things NOT to do When Your Wife is Pregnant.
Geoffrey Sagers is just a regular Mormon dad who blogs (in Chronicles of Geoff) about whatever project he is working on, be it home improvement, self improvement or family outings.
But more than a decade after his wife didn’t get asked to prom, Geoff did something pretty extraordinary. When it comes to prom, maybe late isn’t just better than never, maybe it’s just plain better.
Geoff even let his wife tell the story in her blog. We can learn a lot from Geoff. (Let’s hope our wives don’t see this.)
When Geoff isn’t working on earning husband of the year honors, he is busy being the father of five. His oldest daughter has special needs. “She is my incentive to live right,” says Geoff.
Welcome Geoff to MDB by starting with his link to his wife’s post in Prom 2011.
“What are you going to be when you grow up?”
Once that question was an opportunity to let your imagination soar with limitless possibilities, before the grown-up would chuckle at your answer and send you on our way with a pat on your head. But to the recently returned missionary on a first date, that question is loaded.
Fortunately, there is a new blog on the scene to help recently returned missionaries not only answer that question, but to help with the overall transition back to civilian life. It’s called the RMTC, or Returned Missionary Training Center, and it makes perfect sense. We have plowed the wisdom of generations of missionary work into our Missionary Training Center, but when our youth return home after their service, we give them a handshake and wish them all the best.
In addition to articles on how to RM (for example, this post on why we’re a mess for awhile after our missions), the blog includes a list of stuff the returning missionaries missed while they were gone (royal weddings, Adele, etc.).
While many of those who participate here at MDB are beyond being considered a recently returned missionary, we still want to help spread the word about the RMTC blog in an effort to help them get those fine young men to the point where they are candidates for Mormon dads, and therefore participants of MDB.
Thanks to Aaron Quist, one of the “faculty” members at the RMTC, for bringing this blog to our attention. Aaron is a practicing attorney. He and his wife are raising two children in California.
Enjoy Aaron’s post, The Pre-Astronaut RM.
In fact, there are two times when we can raise our voices, one of which is prophet sanctioned, the other scripturally sanctioned.
Special thanks to Richard Tait for bringing these occasions to our attention in his recent post in Mormon Third Eye, I See… When it’s OK to Yell at Your Wife.