Dad U.

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That may be me in the picture, learning with my little brother the fine art of hammering stuff, though it’s the kind of scene that plays itself out every day all across the world: a dad patiently coaching his boys when clearly it would be easier to do the thing himself. But such dads aren’t as interested in the things they’re building as much as the future dads they’re building.

In the aftermath of the day of celebrating dads, a flurry of posts have emerged that demonstrate how much dads have made a big impact on our own dadness in the MDB community. Here are some highlights about how we feel not only about our dads, but our own responsibilities of being dads.


Me: I can’t believe I have a patch of gray hair.

Anna: You have gray hair, Daddy? That means you’re old. (starts getting upset) I don’t want you to get old!

Me: I’m not that old, sweetie. I’m just a little bit old.

Wife: (pointing at my head in the mirror) See? It’s a patch.

Anna: You’re going to die soon.

Me and wife: ….?

Anna: (Starts singing) You’re going to die soon, you’re going to die soon…

I don’t think there’s any better way to celebrate father’s day than to have your eldest daughter sing a song about how ‘you’re going to die soon’ upon hearing about your first patch of gray hair.” Josh Weed, The Weed (read Father’s Day Song)


“My sweet wife must be just a wee bit disturbed that I have resurrected what she views as a seemingly superficial appreciation for the Three Stooges after at least a decade of dormancy. She overlooked my mania for the three kings of slapstick comedy when we started our lives together back in ’84. As I have grown in the Gospel and in life, she probably assumed that I had matured out of that immature phase, and graduated to more settled, approved entertainment options such as soap operas and grisly crime dramas. However, I never really abandoned the Three Stooges; I just emotionally buried them for awhile, waiting for the right moment. Father’s Day 2011 is that right moment.” Richard Tait, Mormon Third Eye (read I See… A Mormon Third Eye Father’s Day Special! Serious Silliness: How the Three Stooges Blesses the Lives of Men of the Church


“Alas, my kids are stuck with me for their father. I don’t do sports and I’m no superhero. But I do try to be a good father. On occasion I actually succeed.” Scott Hinrichs, Reach Upward (read A Dad, Not a Superhero)


“Fathers, remember back in high school when we were on a sports team and we had to do two, and some times even three-a-day practices? They were hard. But in the end, after the buzzer sounded, the whistle blew and the game was over, all that roughness paid off.

“Having Macey home is a three-a-day (actually its more like an all-day) practice. But she is here. She is healthy. She the prettiest thing, next to her mom, that I have ever seen. She is 8 pounds and 10 ounces of pure joy. She is the light of our home. Its a good rough.” Scott Bagley, Macey n’ Me (read Best Father’s Day Gift Ever)


“Is that really so much to ask? One day a year when we don’t look at deadbeats or abusers and instead look at the good guys and say, ‘You rock!’ Not, ‘You need to do better,’ or make nudge-nudge-wink-wink jokes about how goofily sweet and clueless dads are. I think dads deserve better than that.” Braden Bell (read Happy Father’s Day, With No Qualifications or Guilt Trips)


“My dad always kept his ties tied. ‘Tie ‘em once and you’re done,’ was his motto. At the end of the day he’d loosen his tie, slip it over his head and hang it on his tie rack. Now I see a couple of my boys doing the same thing.” Kevin Beckstrom, Beckstrom Buzz (read Family Ties, or Thanks, Dad!)


Abel Keogh posted a link to maybe the best father-son scene in all of moviedom. Be sure to visit Father’s and Sons.


“Harry Potter’s parents are dead and his aunt and uncle are horrible. Luke Skywalker’s dad became a Sith Lord. Katniss’ mom was a vegetable for a while.

“The litany of media that portrays families as dysfunctional and broken and populated by selfish jerks is long and irritating, because I don’t think it’s fair. I think there are far more families that are trying hard to stay together and be a loving family than there are these other types.” Jared Garrett (read A Celebration of Fathers)


“In the hundreds of Sunday School lessons and Seminary classes that he will attend but rarely pay attention to, may there be something that sticks. May there be enough seeds planted that faith eventually fills his being.

“Give him strength to never accept the offered beer or cigarette, or myriad other substances that he is taught to avoid. May the Ginger Ale or the 2-liter Mountain Dew be the extent of his binge drinking.

“During his teen years when he likes me about as much as anyone likes BO, help me, Lord, to be patient and compassionate that I not give up. He needs his father.” Bitner, Modern Mormon Men (read A Mormon Father’s Prayer For His Son)


And last, but not least: In The Art of Manliness, Brett McKay shares with us his take on the 12 Best Movies About Fatherhood.


Remembering

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It’s a day for remembering. Remembering those who put their lives on the line to protect us. Remembering loved ones who have gone before us. Here is a pair of posts that remind us to remember.

Band of Brothers

The Art of Manliness turns its attention to the men of World War II’s Easy Company, just one company of many who sacrificed much to preserve our freedoms.

AofM’s post features a series of motivation-style posters capturing the voices and images of some of the men of Easy Company, who still have much they can teach us today.

Read Motivational Posters from the Band of Brothers.

The Men Behind the Crosses

If you live in Utah, you may have driven by them many times. And you may have heard about them in the news, as they have attracted considerable legal attention. But Scott Taylor recently stopped to learn more about a pair of crosses he drives by regularly.

He learned that this particular pair of crosses marks the location where two Utah Highway Patrol officers had fallen 40 years apart. He dug deeper to learn their stories, which he shares briefly on his post, but also provides links where you can learn more about the men behind the crosses.

Read They Died 40 Years Apart…A Memorial.

The Manly Switch of Physicality

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It was a post I started reading with great anticipation. The introduction describes a series of five switches that, when left in the “off” position, leave us feeling restless, angry, and apathetic, but when switched to the “on” position make us feel “alive, invigorated, motivated to be our best, and just plain manly.” Best of all, these switches would require only “small and simple” changes.

Sign me up.

I confess the more I got into Brett McKay’s post on the first switch, physicality, the more I realized two things: 1) this particular switch may not be as small and simple to implement as I had hoped; and 2) Brett was probably right on the money.

Writes Brett: “When seeking to activate the deeply encoded parts of primitive masculinity, there is no better place to start than physicality. Primitive man used his body all day every day: building, hunting, walking, dancing, fighting. For modern man, these activities have been replaced with sitting.”

Time to get out of that chair? Don’t miss The Art of Manliness’ first installment in the series The 5 Switches of Manliness.

Only four switches to go…

How to Practice Safe Rooftop Jumping

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Most Mormon dads, probably like a lot of dads out there, would hate to admit it, but if we ever did find ourselves in a life-and-death situation (involving, for example, Ninjas or other would-be political assassins) that required us to jump from one rooftop to another, we would be stumped.

Frankly, we weren’t all born Jason Bourne.

Fortunately, we needn’t be stumped anymore, thanks to Brett McKay of the husband and wife blogging team behind the Art of Manliness.

Now, before we embarrass ourselves with an awkward plummet several stories below, or worse, stop at building’s edge with an shamefaced apology, we can learn the fine skill of rooftop jumping* in How to Jump From Rooftop to Rooftop.

*Kids (and honestly, aren’t we all kids?), don’t try this at home.

How Manly Men Roll

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For guys like (ahem) me who struggle with even the most basic items on the honey do list (with Lefty Lucy, is it my left or the thing’s left?) or can only bowl in the three figures with the help of gutter bumpers, the Art of Manliness is a godsend.

The blog, dedicated to uncovering the lost art of being a man, is authored by husband and wife team Brett and Kate McKay. It features articles to help us be better husbands, better fathers, and better men. Oh, and better bowlers. It has become hugely successful, suggesting perhaps that those of us feeling the need to shore up our manliness from time to time may not be as alone as we feel.

So, before you embarrass yourself again on the lanes, be sure to visit Brett’s post, How to Bowl a Strike. (Apparently, there are techniques involved. Who knew?) If you like what you see, you’ll find the website to be a treasure trove of information on how to be a manlier man. (Apparently, there are techniques for that, too!)

The McKays live in Tulsa, OK. After graduating with a BA in Letters, Brett went on to pursue his lifelong goal of going to law school. He started the blog while attending the University of Tulsa College of Law, as something fun to do in his spare time (law school is pretty famous for offering its students plenty of that). The website really took off, and today he juggles working on the blog with working for a legal research company.

MDB welcomes the McKays.